October 27, 2011
That Loss of Personal Touch
That Loss of Personal Touch
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That Loss of Personal Touch

Last Christ­mas, I put myself up for a chal­lenge to write out and custom-​make all the Christ­mas greet­ing cards I’d be send­ing out. I had a good idea on what to do: for every per­son I would be send­ing out a card to, I would draw, using graphite, on the card and hand­write a mes­sage on the back and/​or hand­write a let­ter along with it. 

What I learned from the expe­ri­ence — other than the let­ters occu­pied wider space and have become more ornate since I stopped writ­ing in my jour­nal — is that not only is it reward­ing (oh, the joys of hand­writ­ing a long essay!) but it is more per­sonal, gen­uine, and full of soul. But more impor­tantly, it gave me the time to think.

With a com­puter and a key­board, and like the mil­lions world­wide, I have become quite adept at typ­ing fast. I won’t go into the whole iden­tity dis­so­ci­a­tion with the fonts — that’s another topic; how­ever, it gave me the chance to slow down my thoughts and com­mu­ni­cate them more effectively.

In typ­ing, I can type just as I would think out loud; indeed, some of my posts here or in my “dig­i­tal jour­nal” have been just that: an ad ver­ba­tim writ­ten ver­sion of my thoughts, unadul­ter­ated and often non­sen­si­cal. It makes sense then that, when writ­ing an essay in col­lege, I have been told to always “sleep on it” and re-​read the text at a later time. 

While writ­ing, how­ever, my hand can­not keep up with my thoughts so my only option is to slow my thoughts down. By the time I fin­ish writ­ing the cur­rent sen­tence, my brain has already given the next four or five sen­tences another thought and has reworked them; in fact, often by the time I am done writ­ing a sin­gle thought, I no longer feel the need to write the other ones as my brain has found no rel­e­vancy to the cur­rent sub­ject or has resolved the con­flict by the time I fin­ished the man­ual work.

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The dig­i­tal age has cre­ated a gen­er­a­tion of pro­fes­sional ranters — and I am one of the biggest, to be hon­est with myself — and I keep won­der­ing how dif­fer­ent and more insight­ful would we be had we given our­selves the chance to count to ten before writ­ing some­thing. Very often, this works won­ders. I have had the urge to write some­thing — be it a thought or a rant — and, instead of doing so, I have given myself a cou­ple or so min­utes to think it through before I post any­thing online. In par­tic­u­lar, if I was on twit­ter I would write a lengthy tweet which, by the time I man­age to para­phrase into 140 char­ac­ters, ends up being scrapped because my brain has had the time to process the logic and the emo­tions, not just the latter.

And prob­a­bly that’s the great­est learn­ing from writ­ing, and cer­tainly from almost every­thing “old school”: patience. The patience to give our­selves and the peo­ple around us a sec­ond chance. The patience to pon­der how things came to be and how the uni­verse works. To enjoy a slow con­ver­sa­tion that does not have to cover a hun­dred dif­fer­ent sub­jects. The patience to spell out “four­teen” instead of writ­ing the dig­its in a sen­tence. The patience to craft some­one a gift instead of pur­chas­ing a mass-​produced, soul­less item. The patience to add a per­sonal touch to our writ­ing, our loved ones, our work, our hob­bies, and what­ever we pro­duce, be it phys­i­cal or an act of kind­ness or expres­sion of the self.

Last Christmas, I put myself up for a challenge to write out and custom-make all the Christmas greeting cards I’d be sending out. I had a good idea on what to do: for every person I would be sending out a card to, I would draw, using graphite, on the card and handwrite a message on the back and/or handwrite a letter along with it. 

What I learned from the experience — other than the letters occupied wider space and have become more ornate since I stopped writing in my journal — is that not only is it rewarding (oh, the joys of handwriting a long essay!) but it is more personal, genuine, and full of soul. But more importantly, it gave me the time to think.

With a computer and a keyboard, and like the millions worldwide, I have become quite adept at typing fast. I won’t go into the whole identity dissociation with the fonts — that’s another topic; however, it gave me the chance to slow down my thoughts and communicate them more effectively.

In typing, I can type just as I would think out loud; indeed, some of my posts here or in my “digital journal” have been just that: an ad verbatim written version of my thoughts, unadulterated and often nonsensical. It makes sense then that, when writing an essay in college, I have been told to always “sleep on it” and re-read the text at a later time. 

While writing, however, my hand cannot keep up with my thoughts so my only option is to slow my thoughts down. By the time I finish writing the current sentence, my brain has already given the next four or five sentences another thought and has reworked them; in fact, often by the time I am done writing a single thought, I no longer feel the need to write the other ones as my brain has found no relevancy to the current subject or has resolved the conflict by the time I finished the manual work.

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The digital age has created a generation of professional ranters — and I am one of the biggest, to be honest with myself — and I keep wondering how different and more insightful would we be had we given ourselves the chance to count to ten before writing something. Very often, this works wonders. I have had the urge to write something — be it a thought or a rant — and, instead of doing so, I have given myself a couple or so minutes to think it through before I post anything online. In particular, if I was on twitter I would write a lengthy tweet which, by the time I manage to paraphrase into 140 characters, ends up being scrapped because my brain has had the time to process the logic and the emotions, not just the latter.

And probably that’s the greatest learning from writing, and certainly from almost everything “old school”: patience. The patience to give ourselves and the people around us a second chance. The patience to ponder how things came to be and how the universe works. To enjoy a slow conversation that does not have to cover a hundred different subjects. The patience to spell out “fourteen” instead of writing the digits in a sentence. The patience to craft someone a gift instead of purchasing a mass-produced, soulless item. The patience to add a personal touch to our writing, our loved ones, our work, our hobbies, and whatever we produce, be it physical or an act of kindness or expression of the self.

4 COMMENTS
  • http://michcafe.blogspot.com Mich

    And I was one of the lucky ones to get a personalized, handmade Christmas card from you last year. I keep it preciously :-)

  • http://twitter.com/nagham Nagham

    I miss the excitement of receiving a letter in the mail from friends on the other side of the world, and the pages of writing telling me about the important stuff happening in their lives. I remember investing so much in nice stationary to write back too.

    At least we had the privilege of living in times that allowed us to slow down our thoughts and write well; the new generation won’t have the opportunity to experience this.

  • http://myfog-dania.blogspot.com/ Dania

    2 weeks ago, I found a nice journal which I fell in love with instantly, it is leather covered with Picasso bizarre painting on the front cover, it was quite expensive… I’ve been thinking about this issue for quite a while, you put it exactly in the right wording that I had in mind but couldn’t put it this way, at work when I write notes during meetings, my handwriting became bad, I even forget how to spell some words, but still the joy of doodling and drawing words when I am wasting my time in some stupid meeting is great! – Great post Kinan, I will buy that journal today :)

  • http://suffonsifisms.wordpress.com Isobel

    Excellent post, Kinan, and I completely agree with you. Sadly, I’ve never been good at sending notes in the mail, even cards, which I simply have to sign, seem difficult for me to get out the door…and with the advent of the computer, I’ve gotten worse! (if that was ever possible) BUT, as in a comment I wrote on an earlier post, I do enjoy handwriting blog posts or fiction especially at the cottage. Every year I consider creating hand-made cards and/or gifts and they never come to be. You’ve given me some inspiration for this year. Maybe I’ll actually do it…maybe…

    I heard recently that some schools in Canada were removing cursive writing from their curriculum. I think this is a huge mistake. Does this mean, because proper grammar and spelling aren’t being applied to texting or even emails, we should do away with them too? It really doesn’t make sense. I would hate to see the demise of a beautiful craft that has been around since…forever.